Have you noticed how the word ‘they’ is used in daily conversations? Many have resorted to the use of this word whenever there is a need to shift blame for a shortcoming from an individual or a system the individual is part of. It’s so convenient to walk away from responsibility when the chips are down and the big axe of judgment is looming menacingly above your head.
This blame-gaming skill can be traced back to our formative years when we were young, innocent and oblivious to the consequence of our actions. You will recall how we were always so quick to use the first person singular when we got good grades. It’s so easy to know when a student has done well in school because you’d hear statements like, “I got ten over ten!” or “I scored 100%!”. Then when things get a little sour and you have a lot of red ink on the assessment card, the school or class teacher takes the fall for it in a bid to save face in front of our peers. That’s when you hear things like, “oh you passed? They gave me F in biology.”
The easiest thing to do in life is to push responsibilities as far away from ourselves as possible and lay in the cushion our comfort zone never fails to provide. Living is supposed to be a constant act of doing, and to do require effort. As men with purpose, we must learn to respond to our ability, stand up to the resultant backlash that might come along and learn from them.
‘They-sayers’ are not achievers.
‘They-sayers’ are not winners.
‘They-sayers’ are losers!
‘They-sayers’ are not slayers!
Oops, that was harsh and not fun at all, but it’s the truth. Criticism is a very valuable feedback that is needed for improvement. When we don’t take responsibility for our actions, what’s there to improve upon? It’s much same as multiplying zero by one. Zero stands for the responsibility you refuse to embrace while one stands for your expectation for things to happen.
In contemporary English, to ‘slay’ means to achieve, so when they say you’re not a slayer you know what it means. Henceforth, let’s learn to switch ‘they’ for ‘I’ when the chips are down and before you know it, you would be proud to say ‘I’ again when you touch the sky!
Do you have examples of situations that make people use the word ‘they’? You know the drill; please share in the comment box below.