Last week, I shared on listening to and following your heart as one vital part of practicing to be responsible. A few questions came in and one of such is “will the boyfriend –girlfriend relationship always work out because either or both parties listened to and followed their hearts?” This question is very valid. My first response to such a question is that life is more than a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’. The questions of life cannot be answered with either a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ especially in matters like this. This is because the will of the participant is involved and God will not superimpose His will on any of us. He wants to lead us with our wills intact. It’s a different ball game when we decide to subject our will over a matter to Him. That in itself is an act of our will.
Back to the question, the answer is both yes and no.
It’s a no because even though you followed your heart, the will to make it work is the responsibility of the two people involved. No airplane flies on one wing. So also, no relationship works based on the will of one of the parties involved. It takes the two people to be willing in order to make it work. If you are in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship and without doubt, you are the only person willing to make it work, then, it’s time to quit, because a one-winged aircraft is headed for a crash. No relationship can be sustained without the willingness of both parties. The will to make it work is important because the two people coming together are entirely different in background, opinions, experiences, family history, gender, etc. It takes time to get a fine blend of the two people involved. The willingness to make it work means you are ready to accept the baggage, the imperfections and the flaws of the other person. Based on this, my opinion is that there is no reason why anyone following his heart won’t be willing to make it work because you’ve got yours too.
It’s a yes because even though you followed your heart, you will experience dark moments and places. It is the assurance that you followed your heart that will keep you at such times. Following our heart does not mean we will be exempted from troubles even in relationships. However, such practice becomes a sure anchor of hope for us that there is light at the end of the tunnel. We can always go back to God in prayers knowing that we followed His leading. There will always be tough and rough moments in the making of the boyfriend-girlfriend movie which we must be prepared for. One of the ways to prepare for such in relationships is in following our hearts. Can you imagine what would have happened if Jesus was not invited to the wedding as recorded in John 2? They would have ran out of wine permanently! However, because Jesus was invited, they activated the backup plan.
In debate terms, I hope I have been able to convince you and not confuse you that the answer to the question is both a yes and a no – the choice is yours.
Next week, I will take these thoughts further with you.