Finding the right partner or spouse is not like finding the right person to help you survive a lonely Christmas. It means finding a person that you can see yourself growing old with and loving thirty, forty, or fifty or more years down the line. Choosing the person you want to marry or commit to forever is serious business, and it demands a lot of forethought, responsibility and honesty. But once you’ve found that special person, all of your hard work will be worth it and you can get ready for a lifetime of happiness. However, making that right choice comes from a few firm decisions to:
You should be happy with who you are, what you do, and how you look—this confidence will make it easier for you to attract the right kind of people not persons you need to fill in the gaps in your unsatisfactory life.
a. Religion – Unfortunately for me, I have met someone who told me that before I can date her, I would have to become a Catholic. I was so surprised and I laughed myself out in sheer amusement. But you see that’s her value. She wanted to date a Catholic forgetting that been a Catholic doesn’t define your true characteristics. On this, my advice is “stick with your kind”.
b. Personality – Do you have a killer sense of humor and need a person who shares your love for laughter? Keep this is in mind as you look for the special person for you.
c. Similar interests – Though the person you love probably wouldn’t share all of your interests, or maybe not even many of them, you should still be a few interests that you both can share so you can keep your relationship going. It is important that you find similar grounds that stir up relationship for an effective communication and sustaining your interest in each other.
d. Social bearing – Do you want someone who is fun and has a lot of friends around or a person who is more reserved with just a few close and loyal friends? It will be interesting if you’re a social butterfly and your special someone is more of a wallflower.
e. Are you ready to compromise on a few things other than your values?